Acknowledging divergent gender interests doesn’t have to mean returning to the same social policies we had in the past, where many individuals felt forced into roles that don't fit.  Acknowledging gender diversity really just means intelligently anticipating what kinds of things most people will probably choose for themselves, if given enough options. 

This approach could be compared to the actions of a sensible convention planner arranging for outings in the host city.   There could be, say, a side trip to a car show and an afternoon's jaunt into a shopping district.  Probably more men would choose the cars and more women would pick the shopping, but nobody would be forced in either direction.  The underlying principle is simply to provide options that acknowledge a diversity of interests, concerns, and values.

In the end, acknowledging gender diversity probably comes down to a simple recognition:  that if we want a more livable society, we have to begin with a frank acknowledgment of who we really are, and of what we truly and deeply want—as opposed to what a few social theorists and planners think we ought to be or want.